It's a DuBarr Thing

Today I am thankful for my neighbor.  She has been kind enough to allow my daughter to spend the day with her and her children which gives me opportunity to do some things.  If only I'd actually do these said things.  I've made my bed and I cleaned the hallway.  Give me some credit!  I'm also thankful for the truth.  Everyone deserves the truth.  Nobody should ever be left to sit and wonder about anything for more than 24 hours.  Why wait? If you want or don't want something say it.   I'm going to get out of the house today.  It's my choice to be happy and I need to get back to it.  I've been pretty negative lately and it's come to my attention that people do not want to hang out with someone who is consistently complaining.  So today is a beautiful day and I don't want to miss it.  I love you all and I love myself. 

  When I had my first child my mom quit her job to stay home with him while I went to work.  It wasn't always a shit show.  I definitely took advantage of that situation.  A few years in she was drinking pretty much every day and night.  She really was not the best influence though you pay for what you don't pay for. For the past 8 years I've lived next door to someone who stole from me, talked bad about me, controlled me, used me, and tried to give me a bad name.  Everyone would ask me why in the world I would stay "friends" with someone like that.  Well you know what? I had to choose my battles.  I had to do things I felt I needed to make sure my kids had milk and bread. I wasn't working and had no way to get to a job because much of the time I've been without transportation. So I dealt with all of the bullshit to make sure my children had food and drink. You pay for what you don't pay for. I'm vulnerable right now.  I've needed my car fixed

 I read or heard somewhere that:  You have to raise your kids so you can spoil your grandchildren because if you spoil your kids you'll be raising your grandchildren. This should be presented upon billboards across the United States!!! Children benefit a great amount from having grandparents in their life but more than anything a child's life is directly related to the lifestyle of their parent.  Raising a child is more than just providing financial support.  There are strategies and tactics that go a long way.  If you're going to produce a child then at least make sure you choose them over everything because they never got the choice to choose you. Put your time, energy, and patience into the children you create so the world has more loving people in it.

This is my point of view.   Women can hold onto someone only for so long.  They will poor their blood sweat and tears into a relationship that they think a man doesn't care about.  She will, at first, be unreasonable, manipulative, curious, vindictive, and most likely cause more chaos that only creates grief for both parties when it's over.  Rarely is there a human that can be so done, with no turning back in mind, and just walk away without having any sort of self doubt or questioning if it's the right thing to do.  Typically I'm referring to couples that have been together long enough to have children though it's still realistic for couples who don't. It depends on how long the individuals have known one another as well as if there are any children involved.  The end of a relationship is always more difficult than it is easy for most people.  In my own experience I have gone about seeing what I wanted to see in men rather than believing they know what they wan