It's a DuBarr Thing

 I read or heard somewhere that:  You have to raise your kids so you can spoil your grandchildren because if you spoil your kids you'll be raising your grandchildren. This should be presented upon billboards across the United States!!! Children benefit a great amount from having grandparents in their life but more than anything a child's life is directly related to the lifestyle of their parent.  Raising a child is more than just providing financial support.  There are strategies and tactics that go a long way.  If you're going to produce a child then at least make sure you choose them over everything because they never got the choice to choose you. Put your time, energy, and patience into the children you create so the world has more loving people in it.

Even though my mom was my primary resource my dad still played a huge part in my life. I always had what I needed as well as many things I didn't need.  My dad always made sure to tell me he loved me. He always called, sent me cards, sent me letters, and often sent me money.  My mom showed me a letter that she received from my dad at one point that basically thanked her for being a kind and understanding person that never pursued child support. He claimed that if she had he'd never have gotten as far as he did in life.  As for my opinion on child support, I feel that it's for absent parents not failed relationships. First I have to say that I do believe and understand that there are certain situations that are just not safe for anyone let alone a young child. Naturally no child should ever be made to go to or left in an unsafe environment. It is very sad when your child ends up in the hands of the other parent who is not stable enough and an incident occurs that unfortunate