It's a DuBarr Thing

 I read or heard somewhere that:  You have to raise your kids so you can spoil your grandchildren because if you spoil your kids you'll be raising your grandchildren. This should be presented upon billboards across the United States!!! Children benefit a great amount from having grandparents in their life but more than anything a child's life is directly related to the lifestyle of their parent.  Raising a child is more than just providing financial support.  There are strategies and tactics that go a long way.  If you're going to produce a child then at least make sure you choose them over everything because they never got the choice to choose you. Put your time, energy, and patience into the children you create so the world has more loving people in it.

I'm not sure exactly the point at which I realized that I deserved to be who I am, feel the way I feel, as well as anything I desire to work for.  Just like I have learned that I am in control of my happiness and have no control over anyone else's. I've learned that it's okay to tell someone "no". How they react from there is their own choice. If they don't like that answer, too bad.  That's on them.  However they react isn't even my business and I should never be sorry because they're angry or throwing a fit.  The answer is "no" and don't be sorry. Experience has taught me that many times we will be heading down one path, having one destination.  People fear change, they fear the unknown.  Where there is fear there is sorrow.  90% of the world are genuinely good people with good intentions.  Good people go through bad times,  It's important for everyone to always try to have a back up plan.  A lot of choices made now should h