When a woman is done.. when she is not.

This is my point of view.  

Women can hold onto someone only for so long.  They will poor their blood sweat and tears into a relationship that they think a man doesn't care about.  She will, at first, be unreasonable, manipulative, curious, vindictive, and most likely cause more chaos that only creates grief for both parties when it's over.  Rarely is there a human that can be so done, with no turning back in mind, and just walk away without having any sort of self doubt or questioning if it's the right thing to do. 

Typically I'm referring to couples that have been together long enough to have children though it's still realistic for couples who don't. It depends on how long the individuals have known one another as well as if there are any children involved.  The end of a relationship is always more difficult than it is easy for most people.  In my own experience I have gone about seeing what I wanted to see in men rather than believing they know what they want.  I wasn't in control of my insecurities and I always took things way out of proportion which caused men to stray from me leading to my confusion.  As an overly emotional person, I have a huge tendency to hold onto people, places, and things for security. Basically, when I develop feelings for someone, there is nobody else in the world that is visible to me. My emotional immaturity has been the main reason why I have refrained from seeking out relationship after relationship.  I'm content being alone. As I have expressed in previous posts it's best if you don't fill the void, but to be your own.  

When a woman is done she is completely finished with every part of a man that once consumed her.  There is no asking questions, looking up their status as well as the people they know, asking for child support, retaliating, investigating, accusing, blaming, and/or doing anything anymore.  She'll finally reach the point where she becomes completely consumed into other things. His existence which once captivated her now ceases to excite her in any way.  

One baby mama isn't phased by a damn thing he does. The second baby mama still asks questions, inquiries, and researches things to do with him.  She sends mail to my place when she damn well knows that he doesn't live with me and he's never gotten mail here.  All that tells me is that it's all still on her mind; what happened with their relationship is something she thinks about often if not daily. 

I cannot control the situation.  I can only influence it.  Though, there is always a strategy for creating the life I desire.  It just takes time.